Remember the reader who was struggling at work due to the stress caused by the break-up of his marriage? His estranged wife was still living in his house and he was driving her to and from work every day, and finding he couldn't focus on his work. Here's his update.
I am extremely grateful for your feedback -- it's made a difference in my life.
My wife is still living in the same house -- there's been no movement there. Since I wrote to you in September, I spent several more weekends greatly expanding my gathering of financial information, and ended up with 600 pages of bills over 4.5 years (that's 1/3 of a CD full of page scans). I gave her a CD copy and mailed the other CD to my lawyer. No movement yet on negotiations.
The good news is that my work is starting to settle down. Instead of checking personal E-Mail every five minutes, I check it occasionally on my Blackberry. Since I've been on transit, my stress level (and commuting expenses) are down. I'm able to have a beer at the end of the day when I feel like it. And I'm on my own schedule, which is awesome.
The bad news is that there was a work production issue that was partially my fault, and I spent part of a week waiting for the call to a meeting that would conclude with me being marched out the door. I worked extremely hard to fix the mistake, and the storm blew over. Phew.
The thing is, my team still has a ton of work to do ... so while I have had unproductive moments, I'm badly needed, and I'm good at what I do. And my team lead is in the loop about what's going on. So I'm OK for now. And things will only get better when this thing gets resolved.
Finally (not really relevant to the whole job thing), I signed up for a dating site a few months back, marking myself as Married, but explaining that we were separated, blah blah blah .. and got a few nibbles, but a lot of women I heard from just weren't interested in Some Guy Who Was Married With Some Story About Being Separated.
This weekend, I had a date, and she said, "Look, your ex (or Future Ex-Wife, as I've been calling her) spends her weekends with her Mother (in another town an hour's drive away). She sleeps in the house during the week, travels to work by herself, and you're paying 100% of the house expenses .. so you're single. Change your profile." So I did that, and felt like I've made a big step forward. And I've been seeing a lot more activity, which is gratifying. Good for my (somewhat reduced) ego.
So, this is more than 'just a line about how you're doing', but you can easily reduce that to 'Not out of the woods yet, but happily on the right path.'