tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post5873265233675327231..comments2023-09-29T06:09:21.089-04:00Comments on Ask a Manager: following up when you have a friend on the insideAsk a Managerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05281942480230532899noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-32605958940503253852008-09-23T21:35:00.000-04:002008-09-23T21:35:00.000-04:00Thank you for all who responded.I'm really torn ri...Thank you for all who responded.<BR/><BR/>I'm really torn right now. Some people say that I should contact the hiring manager, some say that I shouldn't. The thing is that I have never met him and wouldn't be aware of who he was at all if it wasn't for my friend on the inside. I wouldn't have had a hiring manager to contact, because my only dealing with the company would've been through the HR automated response on the website. If they handle their applicants like that, it makes me feel like they don't want to be bothered.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I'm really torn. Is there a right answer for this? I just want to do the right thing.<BR/><BR/>I have zero qualms about working for my friend. Even though we would be partners, we would be working in totally different areas of town and not spending all day together. I realize the worst situation could happen and that working together could be the demise of our friendship, but I guess it's a chance I'm willing to take. Thanks for the input, though...it's something I hadn't thought that much about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-80777172582218361062008-09-23T19:57:00.000-04:002008-09-23T19:57:00.000-04:00Rachel -- SUCH a good point. I wish I had thought ...Rachel -- SUCH a good point. I wish I had thought to mention it. Working with a friend really can end the friendship, even if you're sure it won't. I've seen people go into that situation with all sorts of convincing-sounding reasons about why it won't affect things, and a year later, the friendship is ruined. So don't tell yourself that it won't happen to you (accept that you can't predict it) and be sure the trade-off is worth it to you.Ask a Managerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05281942480230532899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-50882689914529630982008-09-23T19:53:00.000-04:002008-09-23T19:53:00.000-04:00Have you friend ask. When the candidates continue ...Have you friend ask. When the candidates continue to call me I get really annoyed. Having the internal candidate ask is less annoying because I can just put the blame on them. <BR/><BR/>On a side note: Are you sure you want to work with a friend? Do you realize that working together may mean the end of your friendship?Rachel - former HR bloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13504902980684871964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-14275367682296342632008-09-23T18:02:00.000-04:002008-09-23T18:02:00.000-04:00You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by...You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by following up. Worst case is the HR person thinks you are pushy and you don't get the job. You don't have a job now, so that is no worse.<BR/><BR/>My husband recently got turned down for a job he applied for. The rejection letter said internal restructuring meant they had decided to delay the recruitment, but he was welcome to reapply when the position was readvertised. He was about to be unemployed, so he phoned and said that he would be interested in a short-term contract to fill the gap until the restructuring was complete, if that would help them. <BR/><BR/>They gave him a six-month contract, which may turn in to a fulltime job at a more senior level than the original job. If he hadn't phoned, he would be unemployed. So phone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com