tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post5697458015883190082..comments2023-09-29T06:09:21.089-04:00Comments on Ask a Manager: "required" to attend the holiday party?Ask a Managerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05281942480230532899noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-54212527214168054522008-09-26T20:27:00.000-04:002008-09-26T20:27:00.000-04:00I don't enjoy works social events, and so don't at...I don't enjoy works social events, and so don't attend them. If I was ever 'required' to attend one by an employer, I'd happily fight that one in tribunal, and would win; here is the news - you cannot compel your employees to enjoy your social company, and foolishly trying to force them to attend only highlights the reasons why the probably don't want to socialise with you in the first. One of your three employees doesn't want to come; get over it, and move on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-75242648690872351282007-12-14T22:25:00.000-05:002007-12-14T22:25:00.000-05:00As a very low run, hourly employee. I silently and...As a very low run, hourly employee. I silently and deeply resent the "parties" through out the year. <BR/><BR/>Not only am I expected to attend these events.<BR/> <BR/>But as an assistant, I am expected to provide my boss the same excellent support in running the party, that I provide durning the day. <BR/><BR/>Except these "parties" are never durning work hours and I am unpaid. <BR/><BR/>I would refuse to go, but they have impiled that non attendance would be remembered in my preformance review.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-71354337030644765742007-12-11T12:00:00.000-05:002007-12-11T12:00:00.000-05:00Yep. The last thing I wanted to do when I was empl...Yep. The last thing I wanted to do when I was employed was spend my free time at work, which is what a work party is. If you want to force people to attend, do it during work hours. Otherwise, don't do it at all.<BR/><BR/>(I worked at Ryder in Miami for a year. One of the VPs there had a Christmas party at his house -- after hours -- attendance required -- spouses not invited -- and the employees had to pay $25 apiece to attend. I heard the food was lousy.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-64013231594768375362007-12-08T20:47:00.000-05:002007-12-08T20:47:00.000-05:00I would rather stick pins in my eyes than attend a...I would rather stick pins in my eyes than attend a "work" party outside of work hours. <BR/><BR/>Best holiday party I ever had was at a fancy-dancy restaurant for lunch. Lunch was from about 12:00-1:30. We had been told that we had to go back to the office after the lunch.<BR/><BR/>Instead, the big boss (head of HR) said, "Everybody go home!"<BR/><BR/>Yeah!<BR/><BR/>This sounds like a business function, should be labeled as such and management should not pat themselves on the back for throwing a "party." Blech.Evil HR Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14506069540151526951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-46349954522610913842007-12-07T14:37:00.000-05:002007-12-07T14:37:00.000-05:00As someone who did not attend my company's holiday...As someone who did not attend my company's holiday party (with my boss's permission), there are several concerns that this person may have:<BR/><BR/>1. If it is really a Christmas party (specifically), this can be a serious issue for people of a different (or no) religion.<BR/><BR/>2. If the setting is going to involve drinking - this can be uncomfortable for many people.<BR/><BR/>3. If no spouses were invited (as was the case with my company's party) - especially when combined with the drinking aspect, this could make someone uncomfortable or be against their beliefs.<BR/><BR/>Any of the above may also be concerns for the business clients that were invited, so the company may want to be sure that the setting will truly be appropriate for business.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-42716607294192082972007-12-07T13:18:00.000-05:002007-12-07T13:18:00.000-05:00Any event you invite clients to is a business func...Any event you invite clients to is a business function. It would be foolish to view as otherwise.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-88615036798577927962007-12-06T23:22:00.000-05:002007-12-06T23:22:00.000-05:00Oooh, this is a hot button topic for me. I don't a...Oooh, this is a hot button topic for me. I don't attend office functions unless they are mandatory or I am the one that is supposed to be hosting - especially around the holidays as I'm not Christian nor do I drink and it gets old having to "defend" both things. As well, I have a life outside of work that I prefer to be living.<BR/><BR/>Fortunately, the one place I worked where there was the occasional mandatory function also paid us to attend because we were working (after all - it was mandatory). So - to the original poster: either it is a party (and thus optional) or it is work (and thus not, and the employee should be compensated), it isn't both.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-82687505896440589342007-12-06T22:37:00.000-05:002007-12-06T22:37:00.000-05:00Obviously, no one has even considered the respect ...Obviously, no one has even considered the respect for ones way of worship. Some Christians don't celebrate holidays for reason of conscienceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-75676144432447296272007-12-06T21:40:00.000-05:002007-12-06T21:40:00.000-05:00I can't stand some of the people I work with, and ...I can't stand some of the people I work with, and work functions are torture for me. I dodge them at every oppourtunity, accepting the fact that those who get together after work will have a closer relationship with each than they will with me. <BR/><BR/>Add to this the fact that my work has a BIG drinking culture and I don't drink alcohol, and there is not much incentive to get me down at the pub after work. <BR/><BR/>We don't really do Christmas parties, but I don't mind attending more general work functions because I know there will be others there I can chat to without being pressured to drink. <BR/><BR/>I guess I'd suggest pointing out to him that the customers and you will miss him at the Christmas party. If you do it in a sad way, not in a "I'm trying to pressure/ guilt you into coming" way then maybe he will come. <BR/><BR/>But when it really comes down to it, you can't force it. <BR/><BR/>Have a great party!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com