tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post5575025111672648064..comments2023-09-29T06:09:21.089-04:00Comments on Ask a Manager: where are they now: update #5 - the office selection challengeAsk a Managerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05281942480230532899noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-84123011312106690562009-12-22T13:40:24.001-05:002009-12-22T13:40:24.001-05:00I don't think the OP's reaction was whiny ...I don't think the OP's reaction was whiny at all. As Seasick Mermaid said, it seems that she was less upset about not getting the office (in her OP she seemed pretty equally torn between the two), and more upset that her coworker was able to get her way by being difficult. I would not like to work in an environment where tantrums and being difficult are rewarded and those who react calmly and reasonably are given less compensation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-41837035231126032962009-12-21T09:49:40.945-05:002009-12-21T09:49:40.945-05:00Hey, Anonymous above, can you keep the tone a litt...Hey, Anonymous above, can you keep the tone a little more civil and respectful? Feel free to disagree and present your opinion, just do it a little more thoughtfully please.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-34039362390402869412009-12-21T06:28:13.028-05:002009-12-21T06:28:13.028-05:00I am taking that by seniority you mean longer year...I am taking that by seniority you mean longer years of experience / longer time in the company.<br /><br />And by grade I am taking that the person earns more than you / has more responsibility.<br /><br />Given that you people think office size matters, no wonder the person of higher grade wanted the coveted office. May be she did not realize that the office was up for grabs. <br /><br />You, dear person, are also very 'hung up for status' and being a whiny little snot at that. And it was priceless the way you reacted to the boss.<br /><br />I wonder if the boss can order a new spine along with the office supplies? I am surprised that that the boss havent written to AAM on advice to handle tantrum throwing whiny employees (x2).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-53313840179518812492009-12-20T19:37:52.628-05:002009-12-20T19:37:52.628-05:00The issue sounds petty but I think the original po...The issue sounds petty but I think the original poster is referring to some kind of government workplace. Note the mention of the words "seniority" and "grade". Based upon my experience, sometimes the dynamics of government work environments are peculiar. A co-worker openly throwing tantrums and then getting their way as the OP described isn't unusual.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-45765940744466606962009-12-20T19:07:29.155-05:002009-12-20T19:07:29.155-05:00The surface issue is about who gets the nicer stuf...The surface issue is about who gets the nicer stuff (and what it signifies). I think an issue to pay attention to is that a coworker "threw a tantrum and got her way," and the boss reacted passively. Is this the usual dynamic at the workplace, or an exception?The Seasick Mermaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15089107758742069700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-917931693762859252009-12-20T17:21:52.465-05:002009-12-20T17:21:52.465-05:00Seriously? That was your reaction? Get a life. ...Seriously? That was your reaction? Get a life. Really.<br /><br />Which office you have doesn't matter unless those types of political games carry water in your office. In which case, the entire environment is poisoned. Playing into that game, then, is just as bad... and if a slightly-smaller office is going to make YOU so upset that you're going to pout and "not discuss it any further" - then you should just be happy you have a job. Because if you worked for me, you would have been shown the door.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com