tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post1166544147376534946..comments2023-09-29T06:09:21.089-04:00Comments on Ask a Manager: horrified at feedback from bossAsk a Managerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05281942480230532899noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-5106908680749506252008-06-22T15:01:00.000-04:002008-06-22T15:01:00.000-04:00To "Reader", You've got two choices: 1) suddenly b...To "Reader", <BR/>You've got two choices: <BR/>1) suddenly become very humble, helpful and fully focused on positive interactions at work or <BR/>2) get the heck out of dodge. <BR/><BR/>You can't change your boss, you can only change yourself (IE. your own attitude, perspective and communication style).Andreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08172239229748835291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-55293851903848348382008-06-21T15:27:00.000-04:002008-06-21T15:27:00.000-04:00I'm guessing you and your boss have a personality ...I'm guessing you and your boss have a personality conflict. It might be worth picking up a book on Myers-Briggs to help you figure out why you rub her the wrong way. I doubt it's worth your effort to stay working for a boss who personally doesn't like you unless you love your job otherwise. There are certainly bosses out there who appreciate people who communicate in a direct way and will be similarly direct with you if they have a problem.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-966535212495233332008-06-21T15:14:00.000-04:002008-06-21T15:14:00.000-04:00You got what you asked for. Yes, it wasn't direct...You got what you asked for. Yes, it wasn't directly very helpful, but the subtext is useful. I think it unlikely that this boss will ever promote you even if you do "improve."<BR/>Do complete a self-review. Ask some others in your life (who you can trust to be honest) if some or all aspects of her comments are accurate. Move forward from there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5558939360732260529.post-7286644642827534802008-06-21T03:02:00.000-04:002008-06-21T03:02:00.000-04:00Repeat after me: Boss, I would like some *construc...Repeat after me: Boss, I would like some *constructive* feedback, please.<BR/><BR/>Good gravy!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com